I was reminded by face book surveys recently by taking a quize which allow friends answer questions on how well you know "name goes here". It usually reveals we really do not "know" each other like we thought we did. I learned by creating my own quiz that people either have a different perception of me than is "reality", or they need to spend more time with me to learn me better. That got me to thinking about how many times we all form opinions about people too quickly without really getting to know them. (You should ask me sometime about my 24 year marriage, or better yet…don't ask).
As we get older and mature, most of us gain much better perception on what reality is. I still make mistakes, and misjudge people, but I do take time before jumping into close relationships and making quick personal judgments of people. For instance, I believe that it takes "at least" 6 months of dating someone regularly before the true person is beginning to be revealed.
Who knows us best….only God!!! Who is next in line….our best friend, and maybe our therapist. Anyone that you can really trust and open up to is who knows us best. We all need people like this in our lives, people that can hold us accountable for our actions. (Believe me, a friend is much cheaper and better than therapists….and can go out to dinner….and you can call at all hours of the night and will actually answer).
I want to spend the rest of my life looking at people in a different and more positive way than I have in the past. I want to spend time getting to know them before I make any unreal judgments about their character. I want to love more people and be less critical. Most of all....I want to find sincere relationships which will last a lifetime no matter what.
How many people can you think of during your life in which you "judged" were different than what you really learned they were after spending time with them? This should teach us all a great lesson. Let's spend time getting to know each other better!
"We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere."
---Tim McGraw
"Never forget the days I spent with you. Continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours."
---Ludwig Van Beethoven
"TRUE FRIEN
DS WILL DRIVE YOU ANYWHERE".........Chloe Michelle Ingram
3 comments:
I am enjoying the time we are spending having fun and getting to know one another....I sense a pretty close friendship in the making....what about you?
I have a couple of co-workers who are AWESOME but you would never know it from their first impressions. You are on the moolah about being too quick to judge.
Few of us are blessed with that special intuition that sizes up a new person quickly. I certainly am not, and like you (I sense) have been surprised (both disappointed and delighted) way more than a few times.
Six months? I suppoose a rule of thumb is a good thing, it ceretainly never hurts to give these things time. Personally, I am enjoying the company of a woman right now, I suppose you'd call it dating, whom I knew almost instantly to be a good person and someone who would be very pleasant to know. That is rare, I agree, but it's so special when it happens.
Here's what I wonder; when you have had the good fortune to meet someone whom you like immediately, is that about your own intuition?, or is it about That Person?
We could say "both", but I tend to believe there is something special about some people and it shows through right away if your are watching.
Whatever, here's to dear friends and lifelong relationships.
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